Do you like it hot or do you like it sweet? Love comes in many flavors and this weekend, with hearts and flowers and candy and whips and chains and peanut butter and whatever you like available, it''s a free-for-all.

Highlighting Valentine''s Day weekend are two events with opposing views on love. The Fourth Annual Erotic Art Show with live music is on Saturday out at the three spirits hangout in Sand City and the last concert of the Jazzy Winter Wonderland series by Sandy Shore Productions with husband and wife jazz duo Tuck & Patti is on Sunday up at Seascape Resort Ballroom in Aptos. As Austin Powers would say, "What''s your bag, baby?"

three spirits is the local leader in underground-style events. Punk shows and Sand Jams, artsy happenings, and hip parties go down on any given night, as the spirit moves them. Brad Mallory has taken the reins to produce this year''s Erotic Art Show and says, "It''s pretty much our biggest event of the year besides the Rock and Art Festival." (This year, Rock and Art is scheduled for May 2 & 3, and the call is out for volunteers, artists and musicians.) Artists who are interested in submitting a piece for the Erotic Art Show still have time, up until Friday. Anything goes, up to two pieces each, and this year Mallory says there should be between 20 and 30 artists entering. Attendees are the judges and ballots will be collected and tallied by the Space Cowgirls, who will also be MCs, (along with the Grand Poobah and Uncle Jam) and head of security. (Yee-hah, ride ''em girls).

On the music side of the show, entertainment is provided by White Trash Debutantes, Fantasy and a Mystery Local Band.

"These are two bands I hesitate to put in to any category," says Mallory about the two San Francisco headliners. "I picked them for the Erotic show so it would be a really interesting and diverse show."

With some encouragement, Mallory divulged that WTD is straight ahead rock ''n'' roll with a slight edge and very theatrical, "definitely a little freak show." They dress up and the show is never the same," he says. "Fantasy is a chip off of Knittleland (two members were part of the now disbanded Knittles, who came down from some distant planet to play the warehouse a couple of times over the past few years). Fantasy, the main band, played at last year''s Rock and Art Festival. They were the guys in the green leather suits. They play very original, retro rock & roll." (What do they call that.? An oxymoron?)

So, the gallery/warehouse will be "cherried out," as Mallory puts it. "We''re building a go go cage and stripper pole. We figure everyone will be ready for a nice shiny Valentine''s Day party, something out of the norm." Commemorative T-shirts will be for sale.

three spirits Fourth Annual Erotic Art Show with White Trash Debutantes, Fantasy and Mystery Local Band, Saturday 7pm. three spirits warehouse, 361 Orange Ave, Sand City. $7. 393-2787.

And uptown, at the ritzy Seascape Resort on the other side of the Bay, Tuck & Patti weave their romantic spell through the synergetic give-and-take of Tuck''s intricate acoustic guitar stylings and Patti''s vocal pyrotechnics, which range from soft purring to swooping, belting and scatting. Really a beautiful combination. And their personalities on stage are naturally inviting and endearing. Ahhhhh. It''s chocolate truffles with cherries inside kind of music. The first-rate production expertise of Sandy Shore and her friends will be evident at every turn. The concert will be followed by a benefit artist champagne-and-chocolate reception which will cost an additional $40 and includes Domaine Chandon champagne, Joseph Schmidt chocolates and appetizers. The ballroom seats 500 and the reception is limited to the first 100 reservations. Proceeds benefit the YWCA''s domestic violence shelter.

A Jazzy Winter Wonderland with Tuck & Patti, Sunday, doors open 5pm, concert 6pm. Seascape Resort, Aptos. $25/general admission; $35/preferred. 649-1223.

A couple more events on Saturday are worth a look/see, although they don''t claim any special observation for the Day of Love. Jazz guitarist John Stowell gives a solo concert, playing his amplified guitar "as if he were surrounded by fine crystal.slow burning, sustained energy." as quoted in Down Beat magazine. I recently became aware of his style when I played a cut off his 1996 GSPJazz CD Lines and Spaces on my "What''s New" radio program (Saturday, noon-1pm on KRML Jazz Radio, 14.10AM and both 92.5 and 93.7 on TCI Cable. Thought I''d throw in a little plug there.) The cut "Gentle Rain" was ethereal and accomplished at the same time. Like a spider weaving a web, the intricate lines blended into a coherent whole. Stowell has performed at international jazz festivals, including Monterey and Telluride, and played with such artists as David Friesen, Paul Horn, Bill Watrous, Art Farmer and Milt Jackson.

Also at The Jazz Store Wednesday is a group of Monterey High School students who will amaze you with their talent. The group led by pianist Milton Fletcher, Jr. includes Daniel Bebermeyer, trombone; Tuan Nguyen, bass; Daniel Krasner, guitar; and Philippe Costa, drums.

John Stowell, Saturday, 7:30pm. $20/general; $10/students. Milton Fletcher Jr. Quintet, Wednesday, 7:30pm. $15/general, $10/students. The Jazz Store, 624-6432.

And don''t forget tonight''s (Feb. 12) International Jazz Party at the DoubleTree Hotel, featuring the Monterey All-Stars, jazz clinicians who have worked with above students, joined by the Japan All-Stars with Eiji Kitamura and The Swingin'' Herd Jazz Orchestra. Free. 649-4511.

And a strange double bill at Doc''s Saturday leads off with The Tories, whose pop/rock is crisp and creative, with harmonies that smack of The Beatles. They''re good, so check them out. They''re followed by blues rockers The Imperial Crowns. If ya want variety, you''ll find it at Doc''s Nightclub, courtesy of the Dino man and the Carolyn girl. It''s always a party down below. 9:30pm, no cover. 649-4241.

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